Over the past 5+ years, I have enthusiastically immersed myself in a diverse number of practices, workshops, and immersive trainings that inform the way I approach therapy. Please explore the influences described below and do not hesitate to ask me any questions or request additional information and resources.
Sexuality and Sex Therapy Approaches
Eroticism, intimacy, sexuality, and sex are plastered across the media - online, radio, print, television, movies - and have real implications on relationships. Yet, without context and space to discuss them safely, sexuality all too commonly feeds fear, anxiety, and disengagement. Sex Therapy supports you in navigating your sexual style(s), exploring sexual, physical, spiritual, and emotional boundaries, and supports you in communicating desire, whatever that looks like, to whomever you need. Whether in partnership (one or many), married, single, or exploring the reality of ending/separation, my role is to enhance conversation and reflection around acting with integrity, accountability, and honour in relationship with those around you.
Sexuality is complicated, and no two experiences look alike. All configurations, expressions, and desires welcome.
Somatic or body-oriented approaches focus on the experience of sensation in the body. Our nervous systems are impacted from events ranging from rejection and neglect to accidents to interpersonal and systemic violence/abuse. Rather than solely zooming in on the story of the event, I invite you to process overwhelming experience through mindful tracking of the body's sensory and emotional data.
Have you ever experienced the moment when listening to a song through your speakers and as the track switches, the volume sharply increases? Ouch! And let's not forget the persisting irritation afterwards...
Tuning in to your sensations helps the nervous system learn to self-regulate and settle, much like a sound mixer regulates the volume of your favourite tunes.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT puts the spotlight on the actions that both enrich and impair your ability to engage the world around you. Consider situations in your life that you skillfully avoid - communicating directly in your partnership(s), drinking more than you hoped at your work party, or watching a binge-worthy series of Netflix in place of studying for tomorrow's exam.
ACT recognizes that your efforts (conscious or not) to avoid painful feelings - fear, sadness, anxiety, disgust - create suffering and put distance between where YOU ARE and where YOU would like to BE.
Through the use of metaphors, visual descriptions, and mindful exercises, I guide you to understand in an experienced way the suffering that is yours to accept and identify the steps needed to take committed action and lead the life you want to live.
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
Coping with distress and pain is a normal and valid personal experience. For some, the emotional and physical aspects of pain come and go, like tides of the ocean. For others, distress and pain arrives much more frequently and intensely - system flood. At times these experience can feel unending, or chronic, and can overwhelm the body. DBT focuses on identifying coping challenges that emerge as response to distress and pain, and offers opportunities to incorporate new and adaptive distress tolerance skills. Common areas include:
- Numbing out through food, alcohol, drugs, or self-harm
- Isolating yourself/taking your feelings out on other people
- Avoiding pleasant activities (eg. social events and exercise)
- Focusing extensively on past pains, mistakes problems
- Worrying about possible future pains, mistakes, problems